family, motherhood, Uncategorized

When a pet passes on and explaining it to your child

Sorry for being so MIA guys as you can probably tell from the title we have been going through a rough time. Our beloved french bulldog has been suffering from a disc disease for over a year and when it happened out Vet and the emergency doctors told us he would most likely need to be put down but had us try medical maintenance for a while and it would work but only to a certain degree. He was only seven but in that amount of time has suffered from so many medical conditions it was unreal. The amount of times his back/neck would go out and debilitate him was getting more prominent and he was taking longer in-between episodes to recover. Finally the other week an episode was going on for almost three weeks and we knew it was time to let him go and not have to suffer. I can’t explain how hard this has been and how conflicted I have felt even though I knew it wasn’t fair for him to live like that and was told by many people, including the veterinarians that it was what was right for him it doesn’t stop you from feeling so incredibly guilty and sick over it. On top of that having a toddler that doesn’t understanding everything yet has made it more difficult. Now I know everyone has different religious beliefs and to say that I have been strong in faith as an adult would be lie, however I was raised going to church, my parents still go to church every weekend and growing up having something to believe in such as Heaven truly did give me comfort in times of grief like this. I explained to my son at first that our dog was very sick, then as it got more obvious that he wasn’t coming back I explained the concept of heaven as simply as I could and that animals like our dog go there when they are sick and can’t live down here anymore. I won’t lie and say it was easy and that it made him feel better right away but it did help him to understand the concept of death in a way that I feel wasn’t overwhelming but also wasn’t just lying and acting as if his dog might possibly come back to give false hope. Regardless of what you believe or how you choose to explain what happened, just know that telling you toddler the truth, as much as it hurts, truly is for the best and helps them go through the grieving process and accept it as opposed to acting as if nothing has happened. I hope that if anyone is going through this, or has before, and has struggled over it that you truly aren’t alone and even though it’s the right thing to do to stop their suffering, it will always be hard for us to deal with. I will be taking a little longer of a break online then will get back into the swing of regular posts etc. Until next time, XO Chrissy

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