The thing about becoming a stay-at-home mom is that, for many of us, you commit to it full force and get swept away in turning your attention to your childs needs every minute of the day with very little emphasis on your own. Of course, this is how parenthood should be, but to say it isn’t wearing at times is a lie. This summer has been unnaturally busy for me with all the weddings I am in on top of regular every day activities, but each time I have had to go out-of-town that Mom Guilt in the back of my mind has crept in. I have had to take these trips for some of the wedding activties and WANT to, so why should I feel guilty? My son is almost 4 and had a blast staying with my Father-in-law and getting his own vacation of sorts, so the feeling of thinking I shouldn’t take this time for myself and to be there for these activities with my friends is ridiculous, but goes to show the stigma of being a stay-at-home parent can get to you whether you realize it or not. Just because being a parent is our job, it doesn’t mean we completely put our lives on hold for 18 years. I realized that feeling like I need to be with him all the time and feeling like a burden for having family watch him a few days (even though they were literally elated to have him,) is putting guilt on myself for absolutely no reason. We may not have a 9-5 jobs but our job is literally to care for our kids 24 hours of the day, and that’s the most difficult job anyone could have. I do realize though that the older he gets and the more vocal, the mom guilt when I’m away from his has lessened because I know he can tell people if he needs something. The anxiety assumingly also stems from me not being used to being away from him and that has become my comfort zone for the past 3.5 years, even if it isn’t always comfortable, it is my norm. It’s funny to look forward to the minute you get a trip away then immediately think wow, I miss him so much. The grass is certainly always greener but I’m trying to find balance between being involved in his every move and also making my own needs a priortiy because he will only rely on me for so long, but on the other hand I need to continue to build on my own goals as well. Just writing that sounded so dramatic but it really is a balancing act trying to be a parent and be your own person as well. If you are experiencing the mom or dad guilt for taking time for yourself, even if it’s just making sure you get to some workouts every week or get to have happy hour etc., don’t ever feel bad for this. We can’t be the parents we want to be if we constantly burn out on taking care of everything and everyone else except ourselves. It doesn’t matter if other people think you should be doing more or what their opinions are because anyone who thinks we don’t need breaks..isn’t a parent. 🙂 Until next time, xo Chrissy
It may be August but I don’t think we should expect cold nights anytime soon, therefore let’s bring on the cool treats! I myself am not the biggest dessert person but my son and husband are so I put together some ideas for healthier desserts during these warm months. As always they are super simple and perfect for the whole fam. I hope you give some of these a try, and if you put a yummy spin on one please share with us below! Until next time, XO Chrissy
Pizzelle Ice Cream Sandys
If you come from an Italian family like I do, I’m sure you grew up with at least one aunt who made the best homemade Pizzelle cookies! Now I hope to learn how to make them myself but for now, I buy them from Whole Foods and they are actually extremely delicious and as close to the real deal as I have found.
Ice cream (we used a coconut based one for anyone who can’t have dairy)
Chocolate chips and/or sprinkles
Ok now bear with me here this is about to get complicated. Scoop your ice cream and place in-between two cookies. Sprinkle some chocolate chips or sprinkles onto the ice cream and eat immediately as you will not want to wait a second longer to try this delicious combination!
I bought meringues from Trader Joes for the first time the other week and loved them! For store-bought they were so light and airy and have the perfect amount of flavor. My son loves chocolate of any kind so I decided to take some dark chocolate chips and melt them (I suggest using a pot and melting them on Low, stirring continuously until it reaches a nice melted consistency but not runny.) Dip the meringues in the chocolate and place on parchment paper until the chocolate solidifies on the meringue. It was so easy and made for a delicious, low in fat treat.
The Taco Berry
Ok this one was really fun for the family to make together and is something you could totally customize to your own liking.
Organic toaster waffles
Whip cream or a non-dairy whip cream
Chopped strawberries, blueberries and blackberries
Toast waffles according to packaging directions. Once toasted, immediately fold into a taco shape. Spray whip cream to fill the taco and top with the fresh berries. Another ridiculously easy treat that is fun and delicious.
This afternoon I got back from a weekend in Wine Country for my friends bachelorette party. I am the matron of honor and we put together a pretty relaxing weekend of wine tasting, food and relaxation; exactly what she (and the rest of us old ladies) wanted. I can pretty confidently say that this was one of the few times I’ve had this year to truly chill a bit and not have a million things to do for other people; the thing is, I still felt the physical stress that I carry around with me every day, even when I’m not fully aware of it. I’m sure I’ve mentioned before but I’m in three wedding this summer which means multiple events, several of which I’m hosting/hosted, increased expenses etc. And while I’m so happy to be involved in all of it, having everything back-to-back on top of everyday priorities (and my dad having surgery the day before I left) has been pretty stressful and today when I got home I found myself just crying. When I got home the boys went to the park so I could unpack a bit but Sean didn’t want to come back and was having a tantrum upon entering the house, which he hasn’t done like in a while and was screaming bloody murder. So you know those moments when you don’t even realize you’re overwhelmed then everything hits you out of nowhere and you burst in to tears..? Well, good, now we know we aren’t the only ones! I always find myself saying “What are you complaining about? Things could be so much worse” and that is an understatement. We have a wonderful family, a roof over our head etc. and even so, parenting has this way of testing you and pushing you to limits you didn’t even know you had. So, fellow mamas (and papas,) stay-at-home or working or single parent or grandparent, adopted or blood, whoever you may be..if you’re raising a human there are going to be times you feel in over your head and wonder how you’ll get through everything in one piece, but you will and you are strong. These moments pass, and I know one day when Sean is off to college I’ll think how silly I was and what I would do to have these days back. It’ll all be ok, and we do the best we can. I’m not sure that there was a clear point to this post and maybe it was a form of relief for me to write this, but it it resonates with you somehow, I hope you remember that you are a rock star and juggle this thing called life the best you can. New recipes coming this week but thank you for listening to this random post. Until next time xo Chrissy