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Let’s move on from Mom Guilt, shall we?

The thing about becoming a stay-at-home mom is that, for many of us, you commit to it full force and get swept away in turning your attention to your childs needs every minute of the day with very little emphasis on your own. Of course, this is how parenthood should be, but to say it isn’t wearing at times is a lie. This summer has been unnaturally busy for me with all the weddings I am in on top of regular every day activities, but each time I have had to go out-of-town that Mom Guilt in the back of my mind has crept in. I have had to take these trips for some of the wedding activties and WANT to, so why should I feel guilty? My son is almost 4 and had a blast staying with my Father-in-law and getting his own vacation of sorts, so the feeling of thinking I shouldn’t take this time for myself and to be there for these activities with my friends is ridiculous, but goes to show the stigma of being a stay-at-home parent can get to you whether you realize it or not. Just because being a parent is our job, it doesn’t mean we completely put our lives on hold for 18 years. I realized that feeling like I need to be with him all the time and feeling like a burden for having family watch him a few days (even though they were literally elated to have him,) is putting guilt on myself for absolutely no reason. We may not have a 9-5 jobs but our job is literally to care for our kids 24 hours of the day, and that’s the most difficult job anyone could have. I do realize though that the older he gets and the more vocal, the mom guilt when I’m away from his has lessened because I know he can tell people if he needs something. The anxiety assumingly also stems from me not being used to being away from him and that has become my comfort zone for the past 3.5 years, even if it isn’t always comfortable, it is my norm. It’s funny to look forward to the minute you get a trip away then immediately think wow, I miss him so much. The grass is certainly always greener but I’m trying to find balance between being involved in his every move and also making my own needs a priortiy because he will only rely on me for so long, but on the other hand I need to continue to build on my own goals as well. Just writing that sounded so dramatic but it really is a balancing act trying to be a parent and be your own person as well. If you are experiencing the mom or dad guilt for taking time for yourself, even if it’s just making sure you get to some workouts every week or get to have happy hour etc., don’t ever feel bad for this. We can’t be the parents we want to be if we constantly burn out on taking care of everything and everyone else except ourselves. It doesn’t matter if other people think you should be doing more or what their opinions are because anyone who thinks we don’t need breaks..isn’t a parent. 🙂 Until next time, xo Chrissy

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Orangetheory Fitness: Honest First Impression

Alright guys sorry for being MIA but I did warn you these couple of months are insane. Since I’ve been trying to get my health (both mental and physical) to a much better place, I’ve tried a bunch of different things this year to see what works with me and what doesn’t. The other week after having lunch with my son across the street from an Orangetheory I decided to pop in and see what all the hype was about. I’d also like to note I have no personal ties to this company or any other fitness studios and/or products I use, that would be nice but I have no connections to fitness-related companies. When I walked into the studio a very nice young man (yes anyone under 25 to me now is young,) explained the concept of their approach to workouts and I signed up to take a trial class the week later. I went to the 9:35 class on a Monday and not going to lie, I was really nervous. Luckily for me I was one of four newcomers that morning so it was nice to go into it not being the only one having no idea whats going on. Now if you’re interested in trying an OTF class I’d do some research, check YouTube, go talk to someone at your local studio etc., in order to really see if its right for you or not, but I’ll talk about the main things that really drew me into the workout as a whole. At first we separated into two groups and I was in the group that started on the treadmill/rowing circuit first while the other half started on the floor circuit (aka weights, resistance training etc.) I like how it really is you in charge of how much you will push yourself during class but there are others in it with you; and I should mention I really enjoy how there is a coach there who keeps the group motivated and also helps when you are unfamiliar with something but isn’t all up in your face aggressively like some bootcamp style workouts. Now I went to another class later in the week but could only make it to the 7:30 class and I should have known better because I really struggle as the day goes on (#MomLife) but it was the only option I had that day. It was an incredibly tough workout and I could feel myself getting exhausted but I pushed myself and felt really proud when the workout was over; I won’t lie afterwards I felt really sick and was still nauseated the morning after but I know my body was probably in actual shock. I’m not going to act as if these workouts were the most fun in the entire world but talking to people who have been sticking with them I can see how they become addicting and the results I’ve seen have been incredible of people reaching such amazing fitness goals with the help of these classes. There’s music, the treadmills have personal fans on them which was a huge plus for me and anyone else like me that is very heat sensitive and everyone who worked there has been nothing but encouraging and helpful. So even though I have only had one week there, I did sign up and would recommend this for people who need to shake things up and get their body out of a rut. I hope to do more updates as my journey with this continues and will be back with some fun recipes as well. Whats your guys favorite workouts and have you tried any new “trendy” workouts that you actually were impressed by? Until next time, XO Chrissy

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Even the best of times cause anxiety..

This summer has been the busiest one I can remember. Being in all of these weddings in a row, while an honor, has been a bit more stressful than I was imagining. As someone who has had anxiety since I was 18, I know that even though staying busy can be a good thing, sometimes when times get TOO busy, it can really send my anxiety into high gear. The thing about anxiety is that it comes from nowhere sometimes and other times it’s as if your body knows you’re under a lot of stress and is trying to tell you because your brain hasn’t really realized it yet. That seems to be exactly what’s going on lately. Even though these events are wonderful, the planning and execution and traveling is starting to add up and I can physically feel it. On a side note, planes make my skin crawl so that is another huge contributing factor. We also just found out that we can’t take our dog up to the first wedding..which may I reiterate is this weekend so that’s just another hurdle to have to jump on top of every day life and trying to get ready for the trip itself. Yes I am aware that there are much worse things in life and I never take my health and these experiences for granted, however anxiety spares very few of us and it truly does turn easy events into difficult ones when it occurs. I guess I’m writing this because it’s whats been on my mind a lot lately and anxiety/mental health issues have had such a stigma but I do see people being more open about their problems and I think it’s important for all of us who suffer to remember that it really is so common and we aren’t alone in these struggles. Luckily my anxiety got much less extreme as I entered my mid-twenties but I’m fairly sure it is something I will have to deal with all of my life and finally accepting that has actually helped me see things in a more positive light. Just knowing that I will always need to work on my coping skills and management is ok with me and I’m aware of it. As the bachelorettes and showers have come to an end, this weekend marks the first of three weddings in a row and, just like a rollercoaster, I know that the anticipation of leading up to this is what’s causing the most of the anxiety and once I’m in the moment it will start to dissipate. Thank you for listening to a seemingly random ramble but if it resonates with you at all I hope you know you’re definitely not alone. I have a fitness update coming soon but wanted to write this while it was on my mind for those who can relate and also for myself, which is truly the greatest part of writing. Until next time, XO Chrissy

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Hey Mamas (and papas)…it’ll be ok

This afternoon I got back from a weekend in Wine Country for my friends bachelorette party. I am the matron of honor and we put together a pretty relaxing weekend of wine tasting, food and relaxation; exactly what she (and the rest of us old ladies) wanted. I can pretty confidently say that this was one of the few times I’ve had this year to truly chill a bit and not have a million things to do for other people; the thing is, I still felt the physical stress that I carry around with me every day, even when I’m not fully aware of it. I’m sure I’ve mentioned before but I’m in three wedding this summer which means multiple events, several of which I’m hosting/hosted, increased expenses etc. And while I’m so happy to be involved in all of it, having everything back-to-back on top of everyday priorities (and my dad having surgery the day before I left) has been pretty stressful and today when I got home I found myself just crying. When I got home the boys went to the park so I could unpack a bit but Sean didn’t want to come back and was having a tantrum upon entering the house, which he hasn’t done like in a while and was screaming bloody murder. So you know those moments when you don’t even realize you’re overwhelmed then everything hits you out of nowhere and you burst in to tears..? Well, good, now we know we aren’t the only ones! I always find myself saying “What are you complaining about? Things could be so much worse” and that is an understatement. We have a wonderful family, a roof over our head etc. and even so, parenting has this way of testing you and pushing you to limits you didn’t even know you had. So, fellow mamas (and papas,) stay-at-home or working or single parent or grandparent, adopted or blood, whoever you may be..if you’re raising a human there are going to be times you feel in over your head and wonder how you’ll get through everything in one piece, but you will and you are strong. These moments pass, and I know one day when Sean is off to college I’ll think how silly I was and what I would do to have these days back. It’ll all be ok, and we do the best we can. I’m not sure that there was a clear point to this post and maybe it was a form of relief for me to write this, but it it resonates with you somehow, I hope you remember that you are a rock star and juggle this thing called life the best you can. New recipes coming this week but thank you for listening to this random post. Until next time xo Chrissy

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